When Women Have No Voice In A Relationship

Previous studies found that positive social relations are often associated with better health and a lower incidence of cardiovascular disease. The hypothesis was based on the assumption that the more friends you have, the better your health will be. However, social relations even marriage. And because of conflicting results on the health benefits of social support and increased risk of cardiovascular disease among married women, the researchers decided to examine the quality of the relationship rather than quantity.

Weddings and close friendships marked by negativity, such as conflict and adverse exchanges, increase the risk of heart disease. In a shelter for battered women, you will see different faces of physically and emotionally battered women who have similar stories to tell. Some had experienced terrible physical violence by the husband or lover. Others have had to endure a life of verbal aggression. For these women, the survival designed to accept everything and keep my mouth shut until they had not mustered the courage to escape.

A new study on marriage, communication and death appeared in the July-August of the Journal of Psychosomatic Medicine and saw the finding that women who did not express disagreement with their husbands are four times more likely to die than women to express themselves freely . According to Dr. Elaine Eaker, author of the study of 10 years, is the first to examine the effect of marital tension in the development of heart disease and death. The study also confirmed that marriage is good for the health of men, but unmarried men were twice as likely to die as married men.

Dr. Eaker can not say exactly why it is so difficult for some women to speak. May be some kind of protection mechanism. There is a general concept that women are taught not to deal directly with their feelings. On the other hand, men are raised to express their anger openly. During domestic disputes, women are usually afraid to show their anger towards their husbands for fear of its consequences. Whether because of the threat of physical violence, or fear of losing their husbands and financial security. And when the anger builds up stress, can damage the heart. A good example is the story of Vinnie, whose husband left her for a younger woman. When the new wife asked the husband to get all the articles in the kitchen, allow, without saying a word. After%% u201D u201Cself-censor for so long, Vinnie lost the ability to express anger. She died from heart disease.

Even taking into account other factors that could contribute to heart disease such as depression, men and women with negative aspects in relationships are subject to a high risk of heart disease, married or unmarried, as an exception. And for women who are used to%% u201D u201Cself dumb, Dr. Eaker suggest that they need to learn to speak more constructive and out of themselves in an environment where they feel safe to do so .